The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck

A Counterintuitive Approach to Living A Good Life

eBook - 2016
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"In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Mason doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is--a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited--"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives"-- Provided by publisher.
A humorous self-help guide helps readers figure out the things that they should care about to lead contented, grounded lives.
Publisher: New York, NY :, HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers,, 2016
Edition: First edition
ISBN: 9780062457738
Characteristics: 1 online resource (vii, 212 pages)
Alternative Title: Axis 360 eBooks


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While it is frank and often vulgar, it is honest and truthful. This may help you, it may not. There are plenty of good observations and advice here but nothing you cannot find in other similar books. If you want street-language kinds of advice, then this might be the ticket to unplugging yourself from your issues. I prefer more literate fair but I read this for its brutal tone to see if it made a difference. It did. He's not a doctor or a psychoanalyst and doesn't pretend to be. That's fine. Sometimes we need to hear the same messages from a different voice for them to resonate.

Dec 12, 2017

This book had been getting a lot of buzz so I figured I'd grab it from the library (after a couple weeks of being on the wait list of course). I wouldn't say this is your typical self-help type of book. The author breaks down ways to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively (how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values). And although the title mentions "not giving an f", the struggle is actually in figuring out what things to care about and what ones to leave at the doorstep. The counterintuitive approach definitely made me think (such as realizing you will ALWAYS have problems in life and the enjoyment comes from solving them, making sure you are accepting of failure because it allows for growth, and understanding that death is inevitable so while we have the time, we should truly LIVE!). This is a great reminder to pick your battles (whether internal or external) wisely and prioritize the things that you truly value in life. I would give it a 7 out of 10.

Nov 17, 2017

Nonsense disguised as common sense. Doesn't tell me anything I have already figured out. Title of the book is only for shock value. Same old self-help garbage just rehashed with different wording. This book isn't going to change your life.

Aug 19, 2017

A self indulgent, snowflake, potty mouthed Millennial with hedonistic tendencies, comes to the realization that he's NOT the centre of the universe, and that indeed, the Buddha and some historical great philosophical thinkers might know a little more than Facebook or Instagram. He blogs about his 'awakening', (as they all do), and decides to try and sell a book or two regarding his navel gazing and musings. How cute.

AuroraPLAdult Aug 11, 2017

To get anything of value out this book you must first get past the shock value prose of the author. Manson argues that you need to face up to difficult, stressful, and challenging endeavors, taking responsibility for yourself and telling the truth. None of these accountabilities are easy and they create conflict, but they are essential for self-improvement and ultimately fulfilment. He highlights the fact that the accomplishments we get the greatest gratification from are the most difficult and often unpleasant challenges. Manson argues life isn’t fair and you may have been dealt a losing hand, however, you still must take responsibility. Even when treated unfairly, you still need to take ownership and move on. Wallowing in the unfairness will only lead to bitterness. Manson also claims that failure leads to improvement and without failure we stagnate therefore, we need to stop avoiding doing something because we are afraid of failing. Conflict is a critical element of relationships, you cannot have a strong relationship without trust and without truth. If you have truth you will have conflict. Avoiding conflict leads to a weak relationship. This is one of the most contrary self-help books that I have read, but many of the author’s points ultimately make sense.

May 31, 2017

I wouldn't recommend this book. I think the author has the odd valid point, but those points are lost in the occasional tirade of swear words. Occasionally, his message of not sweating the small stuff or picking your battles is lost in contradictory anecdotes. His message is also lost in the occasional comma error. I'm not sure on the author's credibility. He is a blogger and (self-admitted) party boy from a (self-admitted) wealthy family. He has a finance degree. The author doesn't really sell the idea that he has the background or experience or credibility to actually help people.

May 04, 2017

Wow... Um... I think I actually might have just finished a self-help book written by Peter from the Mindy Project? I am not even sure what to say... Good solid safety orange dust-jacket? Clever font? This book is rife with unsettling examples, such using racist books/speakers/Halloween costumes being barred from college campuses to illustrate a point about entitlement (pg 56) and false sexual abuse allegations to illustrate a point about trusting ourselves less (pg 123), and crappy lecherous dad jokes... I am not sure where this thing ends and my horror begins anymore, actually... Sure, there are some philosophical basics buried in this book-sized bro-turd, but I might have gleened more real insight from a jar of hummus... Not for me. Not for me at all.

Apr 19, 2017

Might read this later ;)

Apr 18, 2017

Short and to the point, this book actually had some fairly profound moments. Lots of stuff that had me thinking, "Well ya! That makes sense" but do I actually do these things? Not really. A nice, realistic check in for someone who isn't incredibly interested in self help but needs to get their "shit in check".
I loved it.

Apr 18, 2017

Everyone should read this. And... anyone that says it is shallow, is exactly who Mark Mason is talking about. Haha. Goes along with the idea of 'letting go' and is a great humorous read. Highly recommended. Audio book is fantastic.

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