1-2-3 Magic

1-2-3 Magic

Book - 2003
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Baker & Taylor
Designed to help parents to take charge of their home, offers tips on how to recognize six types of testing and manipulating behavior and how to constructively handle misbehavior at home and in public.

Independent Publishing Group
"Addressing the task of disciplining children ages 2 through 12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking, this program offers easy-to-follow steps to immediately manage troublesome behavior with reason, patience, and compassion. Parents and teachers learn how to encourage and respect children’s growing independence with 10 strategies for building self-esteem. Also discussed are the three most important qualities for parents or teachers to exhibit in order to foster competence in kids. Tips are included on how to prevent homework arguments, make mealtimes more enjoyable, conduct effective family meetings, and encourage children to start doing their household chores. This award-winning program discusses the importance of establishing and maintaining a home or classroom with fair and consistent discipline. This revised edition includes suggestions on how to avoid over-parenting, build children’s social skills, and apply the program within mental health agencies and classrooms. "

Publisher: Glen Ellyn, Ill. : ParentMagic, Inc., c2003
Edition: 3rd ed
ISBN: 9781889140162
1889140163
Characteristics: 212 p. : ill. ; 23 cm
Alternative Title: One-two-three magic

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jamormi Jun 28, 2017

We tried the 123 Magic discipline strategy for our foster son at the suggestion of his caseworker and therapist. We felt that it was easy to follow and understand, even for a six year old! It is a quick way to stop unwanted behavior and was helpful for us as parents to cut the emotion out of the equation. I would recommend giving it a read as it is quick to get through and implement. So, if it turns out to not work for you, there is little time wasted.

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Gaffney5562
Feb 25, 2015

Felt this needed a little perspective, as a reaction to the other review by "poatlee". I am editing this comment a couple years after originally posting it, but I can't find a way to change the number of stars. Four is too generous. Now I'm thinking two stars might be more appropriate. This book is for individuals (parents) who feel they have lost the battle with their kids, or have lost many battles and maybe losing the war. This will offer you some support and a sense of control as quick as 123 ;-) I would NOT advocate this method for everyone, or even suggest it as a starting point for parenting, it is NOT a guide for how to be a "nasty parent". All parents love their kids and want the best for them. Kids NEED structure and discipline and 123 magic is a quick and simple behavioral method to implement those. No one likes correction when it is happening, but your kids will resent you more if you give them no boundaries and do not teach them how to respect others. Kids are not just short adults. Depending on their age/development, their ability to reason is minimal, especially when they are escalated. The other books that poatlee recommends (especially the 2nd and 3rd) have their strengths as well, and have some contradictory principles to 123 Magic. It goes to show you that parenting "experts" do not agree on methods or philosophies. Again, the main advantage to 123 Magic is that it is simple and if you do what it says, it will work (at least in the short term). Best of all it comes in a DVD.

My recommendations: If you are really interested in positive parenting, try "Positive Discipline" by Jane Nelson. It's getting kinda old/dated, but with some good, solid principles. Best parenting stuff out there right now is by Dan Seigel, a pediatrician and psychiatrist who has studied attachment theory and makes current research from neuroscience understandable and very practical. The Whole Brained Child, Parenting from the Inside Out, and No Drama Discipline. If your kids are older, Brainstorm. If you are struggling (and we all do at times), feel free to get some help from a professional, your kids worth it.
Whatever method you use, give your kids boundaries, let them know you love them and BE CONSISTENT! :-)

poatlee Dec 16, 2013

Absolutely the worst book on disciplining imaginable. The book teaches you to train your children like dogs, and not like little people looking for an adult to guide them as they discover their place in this world. This book is a guide for anyone who wants to be that nasty parent, whose kids grow up resenting their parents. Also the author has this distorted perspective on siblings. As opposed to viewing siblings as an essential unit that completes a family structure, his view on siblings is as if they are meant to be your kids arch enemies. I did read the entire book though with an open mind, hoping I will be able to take something away from it, and very disappointingly not one of the author's ideas resonated with my style of parenting. I would recommend:
Mommy rescue guide, The no-cry discipline solution and If I have to tell you one more time.

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